Fr. Carlo was a dear friend who passed a note on me one day. On it was listed things he should learn before reaching the age of 40.
The note was full of wisdom and, well, too practical but often neglected. Some on the list were already embodied in few of my notes here so I guess I’m starting to learn those things too before I leave 30s eight years from now. Dreadful. It was still a long way for me to go before I leave my 30s but still, it’s dreadful! And on this note, his No. 14 applies on me perfectly.
Cutting the preliminaries, here is Fr. Carlo’s “40 Things I Should Learn Before I Turn 40”.
“21 is the age when a person thinks that he is already an adult. Reaching that turning point of being young is symbolic. Maturity does not happen overnight like switching a channel or changing things overnight. Now that I am twice older than I used to be, I am happy. Not the usual dilly-dallying when I was in my 30s but, having a better sense of what I can and what I cannot do and, what I am and I am not.
“On the other note, 20’s is an age of guessing or experimenting on what works. 30’s when you let go of your excesses and making active choices based on your concept of self. And now that I am on my 40’s, I am contented and happy. I’d like to share some of the things I learned but still continue to remind myself to:
“1. Know that you are loved. Receive, let love flow in you. Allow people to love you back and love them, just the same.
“2. Play in the rain. Experience biking in the rain.
“3. Go out and play. Bruises are part of it and it adds character.
“4. Take a risk. Life without risk is boring.
“5. Explore. Be curious like a child. Life has so much to offer. Go for it!
“6. Cry! Give yourself a good cry. Afterwards, think and focus on the good things that happened in your life.
“7. Don’t hurry to settle down. Exploring life is boundless.
“8. Enjoy the art of being alone. Being alone doesn’t mean loneliness.
“9. Love nature. Walk alone in a park, cultivate a garden and help conserve the environment.
“10. Don’t read too much fashion magazine. You will just feel that you’re a duckling. Instead, invest in the human family. Invest in people. Build a little community of those you love and who love you.
“11. Learn to devote on yourself and on your community. Create something that gives you purpose and meaning.
“12. Don’t rationalized your mistakes. Say I am sorry with SINCERITY when you say or did something wrong. Also, don’t forget to be polite, say thank you and say, please.
“13. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Don’t wait until you get older to apologize when it’s too late to do so.
“14. Embrace the fear of aging. Aging is not a form of decay. It symbolizes growth, wisdom and understanding of life. Don’t be ignorant and feel perpetual on being the age of 22 as all of us, inevitably, grow old.
“15. Feel the art of envy. All of us does and just feel it and let it go. But accept who you are and learn to contemplate we are all different and all of us have unique personalities.
“16. Impermanence. Learn to detach. Don’t cling to things as nothing is permanent.
“17. Live well. Eat right. Hit the gym. Age doesn’t matter as long as you start it right.
“18. Appreciate music like boss nova, basia, instrumental and cultural music.
“19. Always decide and always think the consequence in mind. Avoid situations you cannot get out or else you make irreparable damage.
“20. Know your weakness as it is where you build your strength.
“21. Choose good people to surround you. They will lead you in good decision making.
“22. Have a quite time- Me Time.
“23. If you have nothing good to say, shut up! Don’t speak whatever lingers on your mind. Good timing is important.
“24. Give yourself to others. Believe in being fully present. Hearing is different from listening. Be generous and learn to allot time for people that really matters you the most.
“25. Be silly at time. Don’t treat life seriously.
“26. Donate blood. Give a life.
“27. Have a role model. Be a role model.
“28. Do random acts of kindness. Don’t count on what you intend or shared. God loves a cheerful giver.
“29. Pray. Talk to God and listen.
“30. Learn something new. Go out with your comfort zone and challenge yourself.
“31. Less words. More actions. Listen more. Talk less.
“32. Learn to respect everyone.
“33. Be patient. Try harder. Be persistent for good.
“34. Save and invest. Plan for the future but leave room for life’s surprises.
“35. Appreciate the small things. Learn to have shallow happiness.
“36. Embrace change. Learn to adapt. Be charitable.
“37.At times, we need to be good to people when they treat you bad. Know when it’s time to fight back and do it fairly- at the right moment and in His time.
“38. Seize the day. Life is short.
“39. SMILE, even on bad days. Multiply goodness.
“40. Waste not. Be purposeful. God has great plans for you.
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